{"id":26325,"date":"2015-03-12T10:27:27","date_gmt":"2015-03-12T14:27:27","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/terribleminds.com\/ramble\/?p=26325"},"modified":"2015-03-12T10:27:28","modified_gmt":"2015-03-12T14:27:28","slug":"what-i-think-about-andrew-smith-and-what-he-said","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/terribleminds.com\/ramble\/2015\/03\/12\/what-i-think-about-andrew-smith-and-what-he-said\/","title":{"rendered":"What I Think About Andrew Smith And What He Said"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I think that what he said was honest.<\/p>\n<p>I think that punishing him for honesty and a sincere effort to do better misses the mark.<\/p>\n<p>I think that what he said wasn&#8217;t very smart.<\/p>\n<p>I think there were better ways to say what he said, or what he (probably) meant.<\/p>\n<p>I think I say a lot of things that aren&#8217;t very smart, and some of them are probably here in this post.<\/p>\n<p>I think I probably shouldn&#8217;t even write this post, but here I am.<\/p>\n<p>I think I am sexist sometimes and I don&#8217;t mean to be.<\/p>\n<p>I think I&#8217;m going to get it wrong.<\/p>\n<p>I think I&#8217;m scared of getting it wrong.<\/p>\n<p>I think I don&#8217;t know what I&#8217;ll do when that happens, and I hope I&#8217;ll be good but maybe I won&#8217;t.<\/p>\n<p>I think that one interview answer is not enough to judge the content of a person, nor is it enough evidence to apply a broad-sweeping label.<\/p>\n<p>I think that sometimes writers are better left writing things down rather than speaking them aloud because you can&#8217;t go back, you can&#8217;t rethink, you can&#8217;t edit words that are spoken to, say, an interviewer in what once might&#8217;ve seemed an innocuous interview.<\/p>\n<p>I think feminism is more than one thing, and I think sexism is more than one thing, too.<\/p>\n<p>I think it&#8217;s important to look for patterns rather than aberrations.<\/p>\n<p>I think we should view people as a spectrum, not as binary black and white.<\/p>\n<p>I think it&#8217;s good we talk about these things.<\/p>\n<p>I think it&#8217;s sad we tear people down because of these things.<\/p>\n<p>I think it&#8217;s critical to recognize\u00a0that what Smith said will earn him harsh words, but what women say earn them death threats or threats of rape.<\/p>\n<p>I think good people can say the wrong things.<\/p>\n<p>I think it&#8217;s important to acknowledge those wrong things.<\/p>\n<p>I think it&#8217;s important to still acknowledge that people are bigger\u00a0than the wrong things they sometimes might say and that we are more than the sum\u00a0of a single mistake.<\/p>\n<p>I think women are used to being erased and are justifiably angry about that.<\/p>\n<p>I think that women are not aliens, nor mysterious beings, nor bizarre riddles.<\/p>\n<p>I think men should learn to write fully-realized characters, regardless of gender and color.<\/p>\n<p>I think we can all be scared though of getting that wrong and can be paralyzed by it.<\/p>\n<p>I think his comments were an unintended symptom of a larger problem.<\/p>\n<p>I think that criticism of what he said does not amount to bullying.<\/p>\n<p>I think that criticism of who he is, does.<\/p>\n<p>I think that social media can be a scary place sometimes.<\/p>\n<p>I think mobs can form without us realizing it.<\/p>\n<p>I think that shame is a bad way to get people to change\u00a0and that encouraging them to take their medicine is a good way to get them to not want to take their medicine.<\/p>\n<p>I think that conversation and dialogue is vital, and anger is often righteous.<\/p>\n<p>I think snark is funny, but probably doesn&#8217;t help.<\/p>\n<p>I think people can become mean even when they don&#8217;t intend\u00a0to be, myself included.<\/p>\n<p>I think that many snowflakes can fast become a blizzard or even an avalanche.<\/p>\n<p>I think that outrage and anger is real and just because you don&#8217;t agree with it doesn&#8217;t mean you need to invalidate it.<\/p>\n<p>I think that outrage is not automatically validated by its existence, either.<\/p>\n<p>I think that sometimes the response to a thing can become bigger than the thing.<\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t think women should be quiet.<\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t think Andrew Smith should be quiet, either.<\/p>\n<p>I think empathy is a powerful thing.<\/p>\n<p>I think empathy and logic must work in concert.<\/p>\n<p>I think that what I think probably doesn&#8217;t amount to much but I think it anyway.<\/p>\n<p>I think Andrew Smith is an amazing writer, a bona fide talent, an irreplaceable voice.<\/p>\n<p>I think he&#8217;s a good person who does good things and maybe that matters to you, maybe it doesn&#8217;t.<\/p>\n<p>I think that we are the tally\u00a0of the good and bad things we do and hopefully that balances out.<\/p>\n<p>I think he had a hard life and dealt with abuse and maybe that matters to you, maybe it doesn&#8217;t.<\/p>\n<p>I think that authors are not their characters, nor are they their books, but that authors have responsibility just the same &#8212; how far that responsibility goes or what it even is, I&#8217;m not sure.<\/p>\n<p>I know\u00a0that I will one day want my son to read Andrew Smith&#8217;s\u00a0books.<\/p>\n<p>I think we can all do better.<\/p>\n<p>I think we all deserve better.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">* * *<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">For your reading: <a href=\"http:\/\/www.vice.com\/read\/failure-of-male-societies-869\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>the original VICE interview<\/strong><\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.ew.com\/article\/2015\/03\/05\/author-andrew-smith-keeps-ya-weird-\u2018grasshopper-jungle\u2019-and-\u2018-alex-crow\u2019\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>A longer EW interview with him<\/strong><\/span><\/a> (noting abuse he endured from his parents).<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Tessa Gratton&#8217;s Tumblr: &#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/tessagratton.tumblr.com\/post\/113355208098\/andrew-smith-and-sexism\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>Andrew Smith and Sexism<\/strong><\/span><\/a>.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Phoebe North&#8217;s <a href=\"http:\/\/phoebenorthauthor.tumblr.com\/post\/113371705400\/on-the-flip-side-it-sometimes-seems-like-there\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>perspective is here<\/strong><\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Comments are closed. (Little time to do proper moderation.)<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Thank you for reading.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I think that what he said was honest. I think that punishing him for honesty and a sincere effort to do better misses the mark. I think that what he said wasn&#8217;t very smart. I think there were better ways to say what he said, or what he (probably) meant. 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